Month: July 2020

“Trauma is not what happens to you. 
Trauma is what happens inside you, 
as a result of what happens to you.” 
— Dr. Gabor Maté

1. The personal/local realm: The outer and most common is personality realm. We base our assessment of the other on what they do, look like, how much money they have and what’s their identity and personality.  Unfortunately, this realm is rife with drama, mind decisions and opinions. Though a tempting world to base a relationship upon, it is mainly mental/thought vibration, which is a lower vibration of life force than the other layers.  It’s doesn’t vibrate much life or eros and tends to be most, if not all ego.  You will tend to see more drama here due to the playing out of unexpressed and immature aspects, seeking to heal mommy/daddy wounds with little consciousness present. Unfortunately, most if not all people base their ultimate relationship decision in this realm and as a result, the relationship is short-lived. Often people relate primarily at this level and wonder why deep intimacy doesn’t occur – why their heart & soul longings are not met.

2. Creative/Emotional:  The next layer in where emotions are felt, met and expressed, activating the body and life force. Here there is more feeling and less “doing.”  The self is accessed through the emotional body and time looses its grip and presence brings a deeper awareness to the subtleties occurring withing and between the pair.  Many of us know this experience of falling in love at the beginning where emotions are an expression of the soul and as a result, the heart opens. Again, a common realm where people make relationship decisions.  But this has its limitations as far as making good decisions for insuring a long-term relationship.  A relationship must endure through this with enjoyment and observation but wait to see if there is a soul realm vibration before making long-term decisions.

3. Soul Realm:  This realm of being, is vibrating life, where we become medicine for each other on a deep soul vibration level. Different archetypes are invoked and transmitted, the soul path is alive and there is a healing that occurs between the pair as their bodies meet – physical, emotional and energetically. Anchoring in linear time ceases to exist, altered states of reality occur. Though many desire this level, impatience and the pull and attraction of the first realm, draws them away.  Two people can often see glimpses of this realm at the beginning but one or the other are distracted by the earthly pull of personality, earthly needs and bodily attractions.  Sadly, the relationship is plucked from its determined destiny only to be put on the scrap heap of not trusting that deeper connection.  Therefore, this realm requires maturity, a check of ones ego and a willingness to see the long view.

4. Divine/monadic realm:  The realm is where the synergy of the connection opens up the channel for divinity/God/Goddess to shine through. Feelings of grace arise as deepest expression of self as God and not separate, occurs. The channel becomes wider as the synergizing of all bodies occurs. Surrendering self and connection to God, praying with sex.  This realm comes with time, patience and discipline between a pair.

In order to meet at the soul and divine realms we need to do the work of healing, finding inner union and resolve wounds in self as much as possible to free the relationship from having to carry them.

“Louise Claire Tantra“

“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.” – Rumi

“Use your fear. It can take you to the place where you store your courage.” Amelia Earhart